“His divine power has granted
to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of
him who called us to his own glory and excellence.” 2 Peter 1:3
In residency, they talked a lot about this progression of
learning, from unconscious incompetence (you don’t know what you don’t know),
to conscious incompetence (you know what you don’t know), to conscious
competence (you know what you know), to unconscious competence (you don’t know
what you know; ie, you have learned the skill so well that you don’t have to
think while doing it). It’s a helpful model for teaching. For example, it helps
you understand why students aren’t madly scribbling down something you feel is
really important—they probably don’t know yet how valuable it is. It reminds
you that you may have to parse apart something you do so easily you don’t think
about it, for the sake of teaching the skill to other people.
I’ve been thinking about learning, about God. Lately I’ve
been struggling with the simple fact that I can know a lot about how to live,
but I often can’t live it out. I know I ought to not fall into the same bad
habits of complaining, or thinking selfishly, or letting a grumpy mood affect
the whole family, but I can’t stop it. Or sometimes, if I try hard, I can stop
it outwardly, but inwardly I’m still griping the whole time. It’s like I’m
cycling around in the stage of conscious incompetence. At least I know what I ought
to be doing, and that counts for something, but knowing what is wise and
actually living wisely can be worlds apart.
In the end, we all come to this. I think for long periods of
time I’m able to fool myself into thinking I’m doing pretty well on my own, that
analyzing and reading and discussing it all is enough. But it is when I realize
it’s not enough that I run into the fakeness of my concept of God. This God is
the God that I think I know. That I gather from occasional, cerebral glimpses
of the Bible. That I hear about second-hand from good sermons and books. That I
appeal to in bursts of self-centered pleas. That I forget about for most of my
day.
All along, I’m not sure I ever really knew and sought the
real God, God for himself. I got good at operating in my own mind and will; how
good did I get at listening to him, abiding in him, understanding him, and thus
appropriating his real power in my life? Because my own mind and will can only
take me so far. It might carry me through the third tantrum, but not the
fourth. It might carry me through one sleepless night, but not two. And it can
be that one bit of traffic, that one critical comment, that one grumpy day,
that reveals what I really don’t know about God. His power is not something
dispensed as from a vending machine, not a series of magical words muttered
like a spell. It is an outworking in my life that is a result of my relationship
with a real God I am getting to know.
It’s like the difference between my idealized version of
Dave when I first met him, and the real Dave that I’ve gotten to know over the
years. Or like the difference between my idealized vision of what having children
would be like, and the real little people I’m living with. The real versions
are sometimes shocking, often surprising, but altogether better, if only
because they are real, and change and challenge me, not just fit into my
concept of what I need or want. The suffering of marriage and certainly
parenthood is more than I could have guessed, but the joys are greater too. And
that must be so much more true of God, who is in fact perfect, and holy, and
merciful, and loving, and faithful, in ways and depths which I cannot grasp in
my puny, idealized, second-hand version of him. That fake version may do for a
while, but it won’t really change me in the end.
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