I
remember being shocked in college at having just midterms and finals, instead
of the quizzes, tests, and projects of high school (that, and using spiral
notebooks in place of three-ring binders because there never were any
handouts). As time went on, the tests got spaced farther apart, and more
expensive: just one test per semester. Then per year. I finally passed the last
one this year, and the next one won’t be for ten years.
It’s
strange how there are pretty much no more external motivating events in my
life. No deadlines, major tests, competitions or performances. No milestones,
like getting married or having kids (except having more kids, but we’re not
able to imagine that yet). If I ever anticipated a point of arrival, then I’m
here. I’ve accomplished my training and established a career, have a family,
bought a house, am investing in community and near family. I’ve regained my
figure, become financially stable, and when I have free time it really is free
time: for once in my life, I don’t have to be studying.
The
strange thing is, I’m not automatically happier. Instead of my better self
emerging now that my external life has plateaued, my worse self is showing up:
my selfishness, my laziness, basically my belief that I can live life on my own
effort. I am more consistent about seeking entertainment than about my
spiritual life. I’ve read novels, gotten addicted to television shows, but I
can’t say I’ve grown much spiritually. The entertainment starts as a way of
combating the exhaustion of twelve hours of non-stop childcare followed by
non-stop work, then develops into a way of escaping from the weariness and
mundaneness of life, then just becomes habit. I’ve always thought that Satan doesn’t
need to scare us or shock us; he just needs to distract us.
I
go through cycles where I realize I need to be more spiritually consistent, and
then I am for a while before my natural self takes over once again. But I think
what I lose out on most is the big picture: what we are here for, what matters.
A clear picture of the larger mission and purpose, and enough awareness of it
to take me through the daily grind with purpose and joy. I get too deadened by
the prosaic things that life seems to have boiled down to: counting the hours
until their naps, counting down the patients until clinic ends. A constant
succession of washing dishes, cleaning spills, changing diapers, wiping drool.
My only goals to get enough sleep (which never seems to happen), to read this
or watch that.
In
a sense, life is purer now. It is more obviously about what it has always been
about: the struggle to give up myself, to know Christ, to be him to the people
I see every day. My natural inclinations are more obvious. The absence of
purpose is more obvious. My struggle with habitual sins, my pride and
selfishness are more clear. Before, all that external stuff made it seem like I
was going somewhere, like I knew myself and had it together. Now, it’s just me,
and the drool-wiping and the twentieth cataract. I either know what I’m about,
or it becomes clear very quickly that I don’t. I either live out what I
believe, or it becomes clear very quickly that I’m not.
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