Friday, July 26, 2013

Quote of the Day

"I thought it was play-doh!"

-Ellie, hand smeared in Eric's poop. Never letting that guy run around naked again, no matter how much he likes airing it out.

Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Perspective


It gets harder with each successive pregnancy to be in the moment. The first time around, it’s all a mysterious journey navigated with great anticipation of what’s around the corner. Labor seems almost worth it for the sake of finally getting to meet the baby. You can’t imagine what it’s like having someone drink milk from your body. It’s all slightly mystical.

By the third time around, it’s like I see the pink strip on the pregnancy test and boom—I see the thirty pounds coming on over nine months before taking another six months to lose it all. I feel the contractions again, the engorgement, the grouchiness of sleeplessness. I can guess what the baby will look like when it comes out: a pink, scrunchy elderly Asian alien. If I squint hard enough I can even see the months of pureeing and spooning food, the inevitable toy-throwing and bickering, the potty training.

It’s not that I wasn’t happy to see the pink strip—all our pregnancies were highly planned-for, desired events we didn’t take for granted—but somehow in this aerial, fore-shortened view it’s easier to see the hard things. I have to work harder to see the good moments; to remind myself that those moments are different each time, and not let them pass me by.

I guess that’s how it is with parenting in general—you get so eroded by the mundane, difficult things that it takes effort to recall the good things. You have to develop ways of doing that, like cataloguing those memories through writing or pictures, making an effort of sharing that with your spouse instead of complaining, or just getting a break away so your perspective shifts.

In Psalm 139 it says, “in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them”—he truly sees everything, not as we think we do through our pride or jadedness or postulations—yet he is fully present with us in every moment. He doesn’t discount what is happening because of what will happen; he doesn’t see what happens to us relative to what happened to someone else.

I think that’s where I’d like to be with this pregnancy. To not just see the baby as the reason it’s harder to be rested at night, to clean stuff off the floor, to hold the other two in my lap. To be more in the moment, good as much as bad. To arrive at a place of anticipation not out of ignorance, but even knowing all the difficulties that will come, is harder, but I think means more. One day I may look back and even miss all this. Or maybe I’ll just be glad I can fit into my old jeans again.

Thursday, July 11, 2013

One and Three Years Old

I finally in some spare time caught up on blogs from a few friends, admiring their pictures and realizing that I haven't posted, well, in general for a while, but certainly nothing of the kids-- so here they are:



This is what they look like most of the time, goofing around together: